Love PUSSY for Food

 In Love

This blog is dedicated to all my sisters who say they want a REAL man. Over the years, I’ve heard countless women claim there are “no good men left” and that if they treat a man well “he always turns out to be a dog.” Well ladies, I hear you and I feel your pain. But let’s see if we can look in the mirror to see where we might be able to place some of the blame. I’m hoping you to read this with an open mind and accept your role in some of these relationship missteps.

LADIES, you’ll meet a man (we’ll call him, “Dream”) and right after your initial conversation with Dream, you establish a date. That’s where things start to go wrong. Most likely you want to get to know this person the old fashioned way. You suggest a traditional meal and movie date, and that’s what Dream knows and expects.

So he “wines and dines” you, to your liking, and things are off to a great start. After going out a few times, you decide that Dream, is THE ONE! He should be yours and you’ll do whatever it takes to get him.  You start making adjustments to make Dream, yours.  You now:

1. Stop returning calls of the potentials in your life.
2. Stop hanging out and associating with your friends.
3. Accept his phone calls no matter how late or how inconvenient it is.
4. Become emotionally attached through the sex

But it doesn’t take long for you to find out that Dream, is not JUST yours, he belongs to other women too, and you become distraught.

Why? Because in your mind, Dream’s a liar, and he’s the worst guy ever!

Of course, he is. And you gave up your time, energy, and body for a meal.

Let’s rewind, so we can have better outcomes the next go round. It all starts with the first date or two.  What should you do on your early dates? Have the man take you somewhere where he’s forced to talk to you and carry on a conversation. I mean a genuine conversation, where he’s looking at you and you at him, and you vibe off each other’s energy. For example- go to a museum or park and walk around, and discuss the different things you see. Find out where his head is, are you two even compatible?

I’m not asking you to test his educational level, but check his intelligence level and see how you two align. The process of getting to know each other shouldn’t begin after sex, but before.  If you decide to give him your body, at least know who he is as a man.  Don’t give away your essence for an all expense paid trip to Miami, or even less  MEAL AND A MOVIE.

Men shy away from the conversation for one reason; he doesn’t want you to look inside of him. So he has NO problem doing the dinner and a movie because the conversation is limited and typically without substance. If you make a man talk to you, you’ll make a man love you. Real talk! I’m just saying!!!

FYI… remember at the end of the day you’re an adult, and whatever decisions you make/made you did with your consent, so don’t be so quick to blame others, and instead, take a look at yourself. I’m not excusing men from the heartless lying, a lot of us do, however, I am not excusing you for falling for the same *&@#_! Over-And-Over again. Get yourself together – love is waiting!

#DearDrLove

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